One of the things I love most about being a mum is meeting other mums. I have made a brilliant group of friends through mum and baby groups and it is so important to be able to wipe your childs nose with your own sleeve in company knowing you won’t be judged (you might even be offered an actual wipe!) and we’ve probably all had a little whinge with another mum on a particularly off day. Yep, my mum mates are brilliant.
Clearly not every mum you meet is going to become your BFF, not everyone is going to be your cup of tea; Just because two people have popped out a sprog in the same postal code around the same date does not mean they are soul sisters, kindred spirits and destined to be BFF’s. In fact, some women are criminally judgemental of others and the way they chose to parent their children it makes my blood boil. Take the breast feeding mafia as an example– there are forums online which liken formula feeding to liquidising a McDonald’s which is frankly rubbish and need to be ignored but, if you are a new mum searching on line for guidance groups like this can really, seriously make you feel like a failure.
I don’t know about you but being made to feel bad, being judged, told off or spoken down to doesn’t entice me to persevere, on the contrary it makes me feel down, like I’m doing a bad job and too embarrased to ask for help.
Let’s be honest for a minute shall we – Being a mum is no easy task, first there’s the whole labour then there’s the hormones and the tiredness and that’s before you even think about the whole feeding thing-
Breastfeeding is no walk in the park, it is something that I was lucky enough to be able to do for both my babies but it can hurt like absolute hell and, if it doesn’t come naturally to you, with emotions all over the place, it can really spoil what is meant to be a really precious time.
Formula feeding isn’t a criminal offence and mixed feeding can really help to make life a little easier – in short, mums need to know it is ok to feed your baby how you’d like (and where you’d like btw) safe in the knowledge that the information and support is there for whatever road you chose and without fear of judgement. As ‘Our Graham’ used to say “The Decision is yours.”
Whatever that decision is however, tea and biscuits are always welcome. Thankfully Lovely Liverpool mum Alishia felt just the same and so, when she struggled to breastfeed her baby she searched for products that could help her and when she didn’t find much she decided to do it herself and that is how Oh Me Oh Mama was born.
Oh Me Oh Mama is a fantastic company which provides all your new mum must haves- whether that is breast pads, tea and cookies (which have been specially blended to increase lactation) or a bath bomb and a hit of Green and Black’s chocolate. All their beautiful boxes contain Alishia’s signature booby baby beanie which are certain to raise a smile.
Feeling nurtured and cared for is good for the soul and what’s good for the soul is good for your baby, your milk supply and your general sense of well. An added bonus is that the box doubles up as a keep sake box for all your congratulations cards and trinkets that you will keep for ever.
My glorious friend has just had a beautiful baby girl and was absolutely over the moon when she received her
Big Mama Parcel she had this to say:
Thank you so much, it’s fantastic!
There was a handwritten note in there too so it felt ever so personal.
A little bit for baby and a little bit more for Mamma.
It’s like a big box of loveliness that magically turned up at just the right time 🙂
so thoughtful dude
From my point of view, knowing I wasn’t on hand to support my mate it felt like sending her a hug in a box. Gorgeous baby bits are always appreciated but something from one mum to another that simply says I get it; it’s as tough as it is amazing. it’s ok to have a little cry and wear un-ironed trakkies. Give yourself a break, you’re bloody amazing.
We are you know.
Loads of love,
PS: If you know a Yummy Muma that needs to know how much she’s adored you won’t go far wrong with Oh Me Oh Mama.
Check out their full range here and follow them on Facebook and Twitter to be kept up to date with all their goings on.
PPS: The people I most love to meet and hear about are the mums that are supportive of others that are building their own businesses and are roll models not just for their children but for the rest of us too. The North-West is rammed with wonderful women and, come September, you’ll be able to read more about the fabulous females that amaze and inspire me every day in my series Wonderful Women.
If you know someone I need to know drop me a line and I’ll get in contact.